I don’t know what to do. I don’t fit into the gay scene at all. I hate the gym, I hate Kylie, Britney and Madonna. I’m not flamboyant or creative, I’m not a social butterfly. I don’t like clubbing. So how am I ever gonna find my groove? Do I have to completely change myself or are there other people like me out there somewhere? – R
There are plenty of dull and boring people out there that are exactly like you. Why would you want to connect with them? You’ve already admitted that you’re in a rut. If you hang out with people like you, you’ll just feel like a loser, and that won’t help your confidence.
You need to find a way to connect to fun people. But I feel your pain. It can be hard not fitting in. As an able bodied heterosexual white male who only gets along with disabled black lesbians it was difficult to find my niche.
Experimentation will get you outside your comfort zone. Get bad cosmetic surgery, become a transvestite, abuse drugs and have unprotected sex. Pretty soon you’ll have a whole range of social networking opportunities opening up to you. There are a lot of support groups out there where you will all share many things in common. And you’ll fit in like a good syringe fits a vein.
Love Glacey xx